What does it mean when your dream keeps repeating itself?
In another blog I wrote about a recurring image or theme that repeats itself during the same night. It’s not quite, but similar to “rote”. Today I am going to discuss how some images and themes can repeat over a period of weeks, or months; sometimes even years!
When a life issue is strong, dreams over a period of time often reflect the same theme. The same storyline or plot repeats over and over; only the symbols change. Other times the same symbols and variations return frequently through the years in recurring dreams.
If this has ever happened to you, you might recognize the setting of these types of dreams and have said to yourself, “Here it comes again”. Sometimes, a new element breaks into the familiar scene. In the end though, at a moment of growth the theme yields to a new feeling. It is important to figure out the meaning of a recurring theme dream, because the mere fact that it repeats is the indication that your unconscious is trying to call your attention to solving the problem!
Carrie’s Recurring Dreams
Here is a series of several dreams Carrie described having over a period of months that illustrate a running theme about control. Notice the degrees of Carrie’s loss of control in each dream. And take a notice too of the movement in her feelings about her loss of control.
In the first dream, she was absolutely unable to get a piece of chewing gum out of her mouth. Funny, we saw that similar dream a few weeks ago from another dreamer! But here, Carrie told me that she felt like she was unable to get the situation under control. She described that she couldn’t “get rid of” the gum.
In the second dream, Carrie searched endlessly for a washroom. Some had no doors; some were very dirty. She said there were many women around. In a spa or gym setting, she couldn’t find a toilet that worked, so she just urinated out in the open. Carrie’s main concern here leading up to her loss of control was wondering why she couldn’t find a toilet that worked.
I said, “It sounds like you were expecting something to work, that should work.”
Carrie added, “And then feeling the frustration that it doesn’t!”
In this dream her “loss of control” had a sense of relief attached to it, even though it included some embarrassment or exposed feelings.
In the third dream, Carrie watched an airplane blowing up in the sky from a distance. I commented that in this situation she was only an observer; I also pointed out to her that in this dream story she really has a lack of ability to control the situation. Of course there is really nothing we can do if we find ourselves standing on the ground watching a plane blow up the sky, right?
In the last dream, Carrie found herself in an elevator that went out of control and she described that it “didn’t stop at the appropriate floors”. In this dream, Carrie said she was advising the people in the elevator to hold on. Although they did not listen to her, she braced herself and didn’t even get hurt! Carrie felt so proud that she had looked after herself! See how in this situation she was able to take care of herself while something else went out of control?
Sometimes movement of an elevator between floors in a dream is taken to represent a transition between two states of consciousness or identity.
With some insight into Carrie’s life story, we can see the progression in her thought. Here’s what Carrie revealed about her situation in waking life. Let’s see how her dreams mirror what was really going on for her.
After being with the same boyfriend for years, Carrie had recently realized she was in the wrong relationship. She had come to decide that she wanted to end it. But Carrie felt concerned, because her whole family and his too were ‘expecting’ them to marry. Everyone thought they were the ‘perfect couple’.
The gum represents the fact that she felt ‘stuck’. Like the relationship, the toilets that ‘we expected to work’, were ‘not working’. She couldn’t find a place to urinate in private because the family would of course find out that she wants to break off the relationship! Yet, Carrie decided to ‘pee’ anyway in the dream. This mirrors the fact that she had decided to ‘relieve herself’ of the weight, in other words, to tell the family.
She imagined that the family’s reaction would be ‘explosive’. This explains the dream of a plane blowing up. And see how in that dream things were completely out of Carrie’s control, and she was only observing the action?
In the last dream Carrie had discovered how to ‘brace herself’ and survive, even though events around her are out of control. For example, if her parents decide to freak out because Carrie has made a decision that she doesn’t want to spend the rest of her life with her boyfriend, there is really nothing she can do about that, is there? What is she supposed to do, marry the man just so her parents don’t “blow up”? And who cares if they look great together? It’s not a great idea to marry somebody just for the picture.
We can see how Carrie has done some changing about her fears also by the fact that she is an active participant in the final dream, not an observer. She’s in that elevator advising people to brace themselves, not just standing and watching like she was in the dream when a plane blew up.
So as you can see, looking at a series of recurring dreams that has a main theme can really teach you to notice how you’re moving along on a certain subject. Carrie went from feeling so totally out of control, having that big wad of gum stuck in her mouth to knowing how to totally take control of her destiny, by actively bracing herself (like she did in the elevator), and telling her parents she was breaking off with her boyfriend.